I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?
Not at all. Everyone needs support now and then. You already have some strengths that may have helped you before, how can we identify and tap into those strengths to help you through these difficult times?
What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
A mental health professional can help you approach your situation in new ways– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Furthermore, therapy is completely confidential. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing my business.” Lastly, if your situation provokes a great deal of negative emotion, if you’ve been confiding in a friend or family member, there is the risk that once you are feeling better you could start avoiding that person so you aren’t reminded of this difficult time in your life.
Why shouldn’t I just take medication?
Medication alone cannot solve all issues. What medication does is treat the symptoms. Our work together is designed to explore the root of the issue, dig deep into your behavior and work on strategies that can help you accomplish your personal and/or relational goals.
Medication can be effective and is sometimes needed in conjunction with therapy.
How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Because each person has different issues and goals for therapy, therapy will be different depending on the individual. I tailor my therapeutic approach to your specific needs. We will talk about your current concerns and goals and work together to close the gaps between where you are and where you want to be in your life.
How long will it take?
Unfortunately, this is not possible to say in a general FAQs page. Everyone’s circumstances are unique to them and the length of time therapy can take to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek therapy in the first place.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
Your active participation and dedication is crucial to your success. Being honest about what you want to work on, what obstacles or fears you may be aware of, and what keeps you from being able to reach your goals will all help therapy to be effective. Since we only see each other for a session a week, it’s the work you do outside of our sessions that will really help you see your personal growth and development.
My partner and I are having problems. Should we be in individual counseling or come together?
Both individual counseling and couples counseling can be enormously helpful when navigating relationship problems. Please contact me for a brief consultation if you are not sure how to discern which would be better to pursue with me as a therapist.
Since couples work requires therapist neutrality, I could not alternate between seeing one person for individual and then also see the couple. I have a rich referral network and am happy to make referrals once I know more about what is needed.